Best Way to Avoid New Years Failures
January 6, 2020 Posted by Y2 Yoga Blog
For some reason, we all have chosen New Years as the chance to start over & begin again.
It makes a lot of sense to begin again when the universe is doing the exact same. New year, fresh start, new chapter, etc etc.
However, before we give you the tools you need to look at goals/resolutions/visions/whatever you want to call them, we want to remind you that you can start over whenever you want. New Years isn’t the only time you can take a deep breath, count backwards from 5, and start all over again (… ever taken a Y2 class???… We count backwards from five, you get into downward facing dog and start all over again for each side).
- PROBLEM: We suck at reminding ourselves what progress really looks like. Take a moment and refer to the image below:
A lot of us tend to envision progress as a straight upwards line, when in reality, progress comes from ups and downs, failures, and great achievements, standing still to skyrocketing forward, to being pulled back, to – well we could go on and on. But you get the point, right? Progress is messy, and it takes time.
SOLUTIONS: Ignore what people’s lives look like on social media, and start talking to real people, and having real conversations. You’ll receive a point of view from someone that’s more realistic, while social media is where people put their best foot forward. You can also continue to refer back to those two graphs above and come to understand that just because you’re at a low point doesn’t mean you’re back to where you started. You are still moving up. Even when those dots start to lower, they are still higher than the ones at the beginning. Life ebbs & flows. You’ve got to go with it.
Zoom out on your progress and look at the whole picture.
Once again, refer to the image above. If you were to zoom in on the dots that are moving downwards, it just looks like you’ve been getting worse and worse. However, if you look at the graph as a whole, you’ll realize even though you’re moving up and down, the graph is slightly moving upwards each time. You ARE improving and a few failures are going to be within your success. “That’s Life” Frank Sinatra 🙂
- PROBLEM: Hoping for an outcome you desire is one thing, trying to force it and becoming trapped in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings because you didn’t get the exact outcome you wanted is another. We naturally create expectations. But wait – shouldn’t we have expectations, those are goals, right? Wrong. If we are constantly worried about what the outcome is going to be, we’re adding unnecessary stress and anxiety into our everyday lives. Once we get attached to a certain outcome or expectation, it’s hard to let go of that specific perfect outcome. Let go of expecting or wanting a certain outcome.
SOLUTION: Expect nothing, and be okay with whatever outcome might come. Whether you reach a goal or not, there’s bound to be a lesson or something you received along the way. You’ve already won just by working towards something you want. True freedom is learning how to let go of expectations. You’ll want for nothing. And that probably feels pretty d*mn good!
- PROBLEM: We think that small goals and baby steps don’t do much. The truth is, the small goals and baby steps are much more effective than those giant long term goals. You get to the long term goals by completing small goals that take you a step towards that big long term goal you want.
SOLUTION: Take your long term goal, and break it down into multiple small goals that take you closer towards your final destination. Work on them one at a time. Cross them off as you go. We can’t teleport from one place to another, so why do we try to do that with our most important goals and aspirations? One step at a time!
- PROBLEM: You are focused on the results, not the behavior. Habits are created to help you stay on track to reach your goals. Chase the habit of change and the results come naturally.
SOLUTION: Take one of your goals and figure out what you need to change in order to get there. For example, if your goal is to save up $5,000 in 10 months, a nice behavior change might be, “Each month, the day my pay check comes, I need to immediately move $500 to my savings account instead of waiting until the very last minute.”